The I of The Storm
The eye of the storm is calm because the surface winds do not reach it.
In answer to the question posed in our title, when we’re able to identify what underpins so many of the decisions and choices we make in life, we’re able to cut away a lot of unnecessary growing pains. We’re also able to eliminate so much potential confusion and disappointment.
Sometimes expectations don’t match our unconscious beliefs
We might have sensible and achievable expectations, yet there can be an aspect of our mind, that’s holding us back. Of course, due to the hidden nature of the unconscious mind, we won’t know this is the case. We’ll have no awareness as to what’s at the root of our limitations. It’s only when we come up against a few brick walls – that we seem unable step around or climb over – do we become confused and suspicious. No matter how hard we try, there’s something unseen, that keeps scuppering our plans. This is limiting beliefs in action, and where workshop attendance – or time spent with a GOLD Counsellor – becomes a revelation.
Relationships are also an important part of this puzzle
We’ll need to unpick whether our relationship might be part of the problem. A relationship with dependency issues, for example, could be the very thing causing our underachievement. In this respect, studying a model of how to create a healthy relationship is one thing, yet understanding it, and then putting it into practice, is another matter entirely. As such, first hand experience – on a practical level – of how to better understand what the building blocks of relationships are, will prove invaluable. Knowing what the functionality of these blocks is, and how to better place them, can now be sown into our consciousness.
It’s well understood that prevention is better than cure
In this respect, placing ourselves in the most favourable position to begin with, is the smart way of thinking. Smart, because it’s gaining an understanding of the most fundamental influencing factors, to our happiness, success and wellbeing, that puts us ahead of the game.
Meeting and learning from the people, who’ve both won and lost at this game, is a little like playing snakes and ladders with all the snakes removed. At the very least, releasing ourselves from our negative beliefs, means we can well avoid the pitfalls created by our unknown self-limitations.
Knowing how to securely place the ladders – to our future success and happiness – comes from a smart, proactive outlook. Knowing what to look for is paramount. We must all seek the calm self-assurance, that lies at the eye of our storm, by questioning and removing what’s limiting, within the I of us.
Reaching our place of calm is achieved once we understand how we are creating the storm.
Take some time to consider the limiting nature of dependency. Explore the psychology of beliefs and the GOLD Counselling technique and award yourself a favourable throw of the dice.