There’s no complication. There’s no difficulty in understanding. It’s as simple as learning our ABC, so how is it, we’re choosing to look everywhere, except learning how to solve the problem? Are we all expecting someone to save us? See previous post.
Well here’s the thing: no one is going to save us, but we can save ourselves. Here’s the reason for all the troubles of the world:
“Failure to properly love ourselves. When we fail to love ourselves we fail to love our children. Unloved children, create havoc.”
I recognise of course, that this is too simplistic for the way we’ve been taught to see causes. Even so, here’s the solution: Learn to love.
We love ourselves through applying some very simple principles. The first one involves taking personal responsibility, and not looking for someone – or something – to save us, and do all the learning and hard work for us.
The second principle involves understanding that children don’t just become a certain type of person. They become a mirror of ourselves, and if we’re currently looking to create such a world; such a mess, that it then demands rescue, we will raise children that will emulate this goal. We then have an ever increasing sense of havoc.
Take the example of Bradley in my previous post. His mother stated: “He’s such a quiet boy.” That’s where her inquiry (if it was any kind of inquiry) stopped. There’s no: “I wonder why?”
We can’t help making mistakes, yet when children are involved with the mistakes of the adults around them, they will go on to make the same, if not similar mistakes during the course of their lives. Once they have children of their own the process goes on and on.
How is it we humans seem to simply refuse to remedy the situation, and look clearly at ourselves, and how we love? Do we want the drama? Do we want the pain and confusion? How is it we refuse to grow up and take proper responsibility for loving ourselves, each other, and our children?
There is no one to rescue us. We’re on our own, and if we don’t start looking closer at the remedy, instead of everywhere but, we’re f**ked. There’s really no complication. None at all.
Do we really think that when a child fails, and makes mistakes, that it’s the child’s fault? At what point did we start believing it’s the child’s responsibility to raise itself? At what point does a child become responsible for itself? Quite simply, if the adults around the child are unable to do this, then the answer to that last question is never.
Is it science, religion or something else, that caused us to think that a child is born the way it turns out? It turns out the way we – as parents – and society mold it.
Further to this, at what point did we start thinking it’s okay to stop developing our minds when we leave school or university? To remain stunted at the point our parents had developed to emotionally? Take it from me, your parents were stunted emotionally. There is so much further for us to reach.
When will religion, and some aspects of science, recognise their responsibility, to help us understand something very simple. There is no one ‘out there’ and no drugs or procedures that will rescue or permanently fix us, other than learning to truly love ourselves and our children. If you love your children, and care about all of our futures, learn about how best to love yourself and each other. What have you got to lose? Oh yes, the games, the drama, the pain and the confusion. Sorry, my mistake.
Mistake or not I really can’t help my sarcasm. Being honest though, sarcasm is only a symptom of fear, and that is the biggest stumbling block we have to solving our problems. Most of us fear acknowledging the truth. When we do, things begin to change.
How is it we fear acknowledging the truth? Because when we see the truth we’ll have to change, and change, is so hard for man. We have established ways of living and established ways of thinking, and to deviate from what we know, seems frightening.
Remember it’s as simple as ABC, we had the courage to listen when we learned that, so what happened? Fear, that’s what happened, and certain people, of a certain age, with a certain amount of wealth, will only ever pander to this, never solving the problems.
Sometimes love tells us all to be strong. To do this, we must stop fearing Change, and grow to save ourselves.